By Ryn Gargulinski: QCS
Tucumcari’s Jim Davis said he’s not going to make a New Year’s resolution.
“I don’t have to,” he laughed, “I don’t have any bad habits.”
Although he quickly added he may need to change his answer to “quit lying,” he’s among the dozens of Quay County denizens who said they shalt not vow to change anything in 2006.
Some said they had not thought about it; others claimed they never make resolutions because they never keep them. A third category, like Tucumcari’s Historical Museum’s Bruce Nutt, simply smiled slyly and said they could not disclose them.
But plenty of other Quay citizens have decided to follow the age-old practice of New Year’s resolutions — a tradition that can be traced back to 153 B.C., according to the Web site goalsguy.com.
The site said Janus, an early Roman mythical king who had two faces, was placed at the head of the calendar where he could look back on past actions and forward into the future. At the end of the year, the site said, many Romans looked back to ask forgiveness from their enemies while exchanging gifts before the future began.
Practiced for thousands of years hence, several local folks were bit hard enough by the resolution bug to opt for those that are frequently the most popular around the globe.
Like quitting smoking. Although she said she’s tried it a number of times before, Tucumcari Police Secretary Laurel Sims is going to give it a whirl again for 2006. When asked how she was going to go about it, using nicotine gum, a patch or hypnosis, Sims quickly replied, “Cold turkey.”
Getting healthier by losing weight is another list topper of annual resolutions. “We’re going to give up sweet stuff, cokes and candies,” said Tucumcari’s Felicia Rodriguez. Her magic formula for success for the upcoming year is making it a family affair, she said, adding her boyfriend and 14-year-old son are going in on the deal.
Another popular chart-topper is finding more quality time, like the resolution resolved by Wellborn Pharmacy’s Don Wellborn. “I’ve made the same resolution for 35 years,” he said. “To work less hours and play more golf.” Asked if he ever followed through during his three and a half decades of vowing to tee off more often, he said he had to sadly say no.
Making more money, a resolution that perhaps directly opposes Wellborn’s working less, is one more that is constantly summed up. Tucumcari’s Ruth Daniel, owner of the knick-knack shop Things, where one can find anything from a Rondo soda can to a vintage band uniform, spoke of her new resolution. “I’m going online to do some selling,” said the avid collector. “I just hope I’m smart enough to figure it out,” Daniel laughed.
Succeeding with resolutions doesn’t have to be about brains at all, said International Certified Life Coach Amy Ahlers, who added less than 10 percent of people who set New Year’s resolutions actually achieve them.
Ahlers offered some tips to assist those who wish to make their resolutions come true. Like writing them down, telling other people who can cheer one onward — or nag into submission, even meeting with those people once a month or so to become accountable.
Ahlers also suggested making a step-by-step plan, even starting backwards with the end vision of success and working backwards to the present. Her fine reminders include placing notes in the car, on the fridge or the bathroom mirror, or program it into the Palm Pilot.
Ahlers also said to get real. “If you’re contemplating putting a goal down that you always put down and never achieve,” she said, “take a second look. How will this goal end differently this year?”
She also said to make sure the goal is being done for the right reason. “Before you decide on what you’ll take on for the year,” Ahlers advised, “make certain you can answer, ‘Yes!’ to the following questions: ‘Am I the primary reason for setting this goal (vs. your mom, boyfriend, wife, boss, society)? Do I feel alive and energized by this goal? Is this goal in line with my life purpose or mission?’”
Finally, Ahlers said to visualize the success, truly imagine what the finished goal would look like. “Visualize once a day and see the difference it can make in your life,” she said.
Top 10 most common New Year’s resolutions
1. Lose weight
2. Stop smoking
3. Stick to a budget
4. Save or earn more money
5. Find a better job
6. Become more organized
7. Exercise more
8. Be more patient at work/with others
9. Eat better
10. Become a better person