All women can be mothers

By Debra Whittington: QCS Religion Columnist

Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. — Ephesians 6:2-3

Mark and I were discussing Mother’s Day on our way home the other night. I told him that it was going to be a difficult day for me since I am not a mother. I commented how I do all right for 364 days a year, but on that day it is another story.

It’s a long story why we never had children so let’s just say it wasn’t the Lord’s will for our lives to have our own biological children or to adopt. I went on and on about what could have been and how different our lives might be today. Mark gently reminded me that it isn’t good to dwell on the past. Instead we need to trust the Lord and rely on Him to get us through the difficult times.

Our discussion then took a decidedly different turn when he reminded me that Mother’s Day is all about our mothers. He suggested that I focus on my mother and how much she has blessed my life instead of the fact that I am not a mother. He is right about how much she has blessed my life and how special she is to me. No matter how old I become, I will always treasure her.

She will always be my “mommy” and I her little girl.

Just what is a mother anyway? Webster’s Dictionary definition of “mother” as a noun includes “a female parent, a woman in authority; an old or elderly woman.

Another definition claims that mother is a verb that means “maternal tenderness or affection”.

It takes more to be a mother than physically bearing a child. I know numerous mothers who put their child’s needs above their own. They nurtured their children to become outstanding adults. I also like to read stories about women who never physically bore children and yet were a mother to so many.

How fitting it is we set aside one Sunday of the year to honor mothers. Anna Jarvis felt that a national holiday was in order to celebrate our mothers. President Woodrow Wilson agreed and with the help of Congress, signed a joint resolution on May 9, 1914 proclaiming the second Sunday of May as Mother’s Day. This is a day to honor all mothers from those who gave birth to those who are ‘mothers of the heart’. We remember the mothers, both those who are still with us and those who are no longer on this earth.

I praise God for my own mother that I love very dearly and thank Him that we are close enough in distance to see each other fairly often. I praise Him for telephones so we can talk to each other. There is so many times just hearing her voice is like a soothing balm that makes everything better. I can’t count the times I sought her counsel. She truly listens and gives advice as needed or asked. I am so blessed we share such a close, loving relationship.

I have family and friends who aren’t as fortunate as I am because their mothers are in heaven today. Those who have lost their mothers need to realize that they are never alone.

Also, there are those who never had a close relationship with their mother. I pray they will realize that even though they aren’t close to their mothers, there is Someone who will always be there for them. In Isaiah 66:13 we read, “As one whom his mother comforteth, so will I comfort you; and ye shall be comforted in Jerusalem”. A mother is a comfort, but the Lord is the comforter that never leaves us.

Finally, there is the woman who never physically bore a child. The psalmist talks about this woman in Psalms 113:9, “He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the LORD”. Although this woman never bore children, the Lord makes provisions for her to be a spiritual mother, a mentor to others.

On this Mother’s Day, may we all pause to thank the Lord for the woman who gave us life. Thank you mothers for all you do for your children. I want to thank my own mother who is so special to me as well as many other women who mentored me over the years and made me who I am today. Happy Mother’s Day!