By Debra Whittington
And Adam called his wife’s name Eve; because she was the mother of all living. Genesis 3:20
The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in him, and I am helped: therefore my heart greatly rejoiceth; and with my song will I praise him. Psalm 28:7
Although Mother’s Day has already passed, I think it is still appropriate to revisit the day. Without our mothers none of us would exist and we should thank her for giving us life. Still, there is much more to being a mother than being able to give birth to a baby.
Eve is the first mother mentioned in the Bible as “the mother of all living.” As we look back at Mother’s Day, we remember not only Eve, but our own mothers as well. The question is what does it take to be a mother?
Not every woman who gives physical birth can be truly called a mother. There are those women who easily conceive and give birth, but never become true mothers. My heart breaks for those who grew up without a mother or with one who has no regard for the child to which she gave birth.
The Bible tells us to honor our father and mother. For people like me who have a wonderful, loving mother this is an easy task. I grew up with a mother who loved, nurtured, and made me feel precious to be her daughter. In return, my love for my Mother continues to grow, as we have now become best friends. My earliest memory is of Mother holding me after I had a bad dream. She came into my bedroom, picked me up and rocked and sang to me until I went back to sleep.
While we didn’t always see eye to eye, I always loved and respected Mother. I knew that while I didn’t always agree with her decisions, she had my best interest at heart. She made her share of mistakes, but who of us is perfect?
On the other side of the coin are women who long to have a child of their own, but are never physically mothers. I am one of those women. I handle the situation well 364 days of the year, but on Mother’s Day my heart and arms ache for the little one of my own that I will never hold.
Recently when I watched the movie “Facing the Giants”, I was once again feeling the same emotions I felt so long ago. In the movie the question is asked of the wife who wants a child so bad if she can still praise the Lord if He never gives her children. All over again I had to stop and praise Him and trust Him in this situation.
While not every woman is physically a mother, they can be spiritual mothers to other children. Mark and I started “borrowing” our friends’ children years ago and developed close ties to them. We had them over to bake cookies, watch a movie, do a craft project, or go out to lunch. We listened when they had a problem and needed someone to talk to. The first of these children are now grown and have children of their own, but yet there remains a close tie between us.
I give thanks for my friends who share their children with me. While I will never physically be a mother, I have a great gift of being allowed to participate in the lives of children I love. Now that I am older, I have a new role in the lives of these children. With the birth of this new generation, I am now known as “Grammy”. It is so rewarding to love and be loved by these children. However, everyone knows I still don’t change diapers.
I will never know why the Lord didn’t allow me to be a mother on this earth, but there has to be a reason. When my heart aches, I turn to Him because I know His way is best. In those times, I remember Romans 8:28, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”
Give thanks for the mother the Lord gave to you. If you are a mother, give thanks for the bundle of joy the Lord placed in your care. If you are in a situation like mine, give thanks for the lives that you can touch on this earth.