Change of habits calls for chance of pace

By Lynn Moncus

Recently, I was visiting with another friend who is resting from using nicotine and wondering what all the noise is about. We both agreed that we miss that habit and that we are sure we must be feeling much better than we have for years because we have been told we would.

As we laughed at that little joke, we went on talking about the one improvement we might have noticed had gasoline prices and other costs not risen so much that we aren’t even seeing the big savings we were promised if we would only quit blowing smoke in all directions.

Of course, neither of us is about to return to that costly habit at the moment because we aren’t that eager to listen to more remarks from friends who like to think they are the ones who caused us to interrupt that bad habit. We don’t want them to know that we are the only ones who really control such habits and are the only ones who can do what we will to make any changes.

We listen to many long stories about all the products available to help people to kick that habit, and at least one of us thinks people are being taken advantage of by being asked to quit paying for one habit while starting to pay for another.

If we really want to rest from smoking, all we have to do is to put aside the cigarette package and go on about our business. We don’t need to make a lot of noise or take a lot of credit for doing what we want to do at the moment. Some people are eager to tell about the exact date during which they tossed that last package.

Well, I know I haven’t bought a package in over a year, but I cannot remember the exact date as I didn’t mark it down. I can lay my hand on that last package I had open in the house as it and its contents are still beside my chair just as I left them one evening when I said I was going to rest for a while.

To say I haven’t had a cigarette during all that time would be to stretch the truth just a bit far because I still have one cigarette a week in order to be able to relax for the few minutes it takes to smoke a few puffs.

Now, I don’t recommend that same activity to anyone else because we each handle habits differently. Some are too afraid of whatever habits they have to think they can ever even touch whatever they were using again. Some tend to become addicted to almost anything rather than to forming habits, and addictions should never be played around with because they are too dangerous.

Habits, on the other hand, are a different culprit and can be controlled rather than controlling. I am very fortunate to have had two parents who knew the value of control and knew when to put their nicotine habits aside for the moment. By having watched them, I knew how to approach the change of pace and also knew not to be afraid of the habit because it was just that — not an addiction.

Any time, you wish to slow down on a habit or cast it aside, just make up your mind to do so. You will find that you don’t have to suffer greatly or that you don’t have to avoid being around good friends who are still practicing the same habit. Only rarely, do I wish to snatch a cigarette from a friend’s hand, and on those occasions, I just remember what day it is and know that Sunday afternoon will be along soon. We just handle our habits in our own ways and live our lives as we prefer to live. Let’s keep enjoying each day!