Sometimes, we are surrounded by a little too much tension and need to keep it from getting the upper hand. Letting it control us rather than our controlling it can make life all too unpleasant. The problem is how to avoid the former. When we can come up with a universal answer for that, we will all be much better off.
As with most problems, we face each one as individuals and can only share our thoughts in the hopes they might help others. Too often we have the notion that what will work for one person will work for everyone else, but that is not the case any more than one prescription being the cure for all illnesses.
Some of us want to relieve our tension by being violent. Others choose to ignore anything that is happening around them so they won’t have to react or even to think. Many turn to their religion to help them through trying times. Still others want to face the problem head on, solve it, and go on to the next one.
When something is bothering this woman from Ima, I am one who would like to react violently at times, but I know that will most definitely not bring any real relief. I learned while living in those canyons that a little physical action could release the tension; thus, I would throw rocks as far as I could. I might even use my imagination enough to name the target at which I was aiming and to pretend that I was causing just a little pain at least. Of course, those targets were other special rocks I had used as targets just to use my “throwing arm.” Actually, that physical activity would relieve much of the tension so I could then begin to think calmly about what needed to be done.
When I go to those canyons, I still have to throw a few rocks, but now I have to choose a target close by because throwing hard and throwing at a distance are no longer possible. Even when I am not in those canyons, I might be known to pick up a rock now and then to toss as far as possible. At my more advanced age, I have learned that the best way for me to relieve tension is for me to drive into the countryside, do a little walking, a lot of looking at the surroundings, and much listening to the sounds of nature.
Calming begins after the first few steps, and I become aware that some sensible thinking can also be done while being out there. If we can begin to think about the problem that is causing the tension, we can then begin to think about the solution. For me, thinking before acting is very important because my immediate actions are rarely the best ones. If we could all learn to be fairly calm, we could solve most of our problems without embarrassing ourselves or others.
I’ll try to be calm this week if you will also. Let’s just see if we can work together for a whole week.
Lynn Moncus is a Tucumcari resident and can be contacted through the Quay County Sun by calling 575-461-1952.