I begin my journey of marriage today as I head back to Colorado for my wedding on Saturday. It’s a journey I cannot wait to begin.
Love and marriage are two things that go hand in hand. I love my future wife and she loves me right back. Love is mutual and a partnership.
It took me 29 years to find true love and happiness and it was well worth the wait. Every year I waited and hoped that I would find somebody. You hope to find Ms. Right and all you seem to do is go out and be with Ms. Wrong. When you find that special person and you know it’s right, there is no better feeling.
Will marriage make me a changed man? In some ways it probably will. And not just the fact that I will have a ring on my left finger. Marriage will give me a chance to grow as a husband and one day as a father — something that may scare me but I am ready to take head on.
I hear all the talk from my friends about “taking the plunge” and having “the old ball and chain.” None of that bothers me. They just want to get in my head a little bit. What are friends for but to give you trouble and mess with your mind?
Marriage is two separate journeys that come together as one. I have gone down my path and my future wife Stephanie has gone down hers. We never crossed paths before July 6, 2007, and I am sure if we did she would have said “look at this idiot.”
Our mutual friend thought we would be perfect for each other. And people think blind dates don’t work. It sure worked for us.
Our path together has had its ups and downs. It has had its amazing parts and its rocky parts but no matter what the right decision for us was to get married.
We went through the stress of first dating and getting to know one another. The stress of when do we tell each other that we love each other. The stress of when it was right to try and move in with one another. And I had to deal with the stress of when the time was right to ask her to marry me.
After all those hurdles you still have more hurdles with planning the wedding, getting everybody together for the wedding and all those other fun things you have to deal with.
Every single hurdle has been worth it for me. This is not a sprint it is a marathon.
My journey will officially become our journey on Saturday and the same goes for Stephanie.
When I return to Tucumcari, I will be a very tan man, as we are going to the Bahamas for our honeymoon, and a married man.
I can’t wait to see where this journey takes us.
Chris Schmaedeke is managing editor of the Quay County Sun. He can be
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